It’s that time of year when everyone is starting to think of what they want to do to improve their life for the new year. Everyone wants to lose weight, quit some bad habit, drink less, save money, make more money, or get happy somehow. Of course we all have good intentions but what we don’t realize is that the New Year isn’t going to magically make these problems go away.
The truth is, you have the power to create a life you want ALL YEAR LONG!
Here are a few reasons why I don’t set New Years resolutions and why most people’s resolutions just don’t last.
1. Failure is inevitable.
A lot of people don’t take this into consideration. In fact, they’re mostly afraid to make a resolution that will last because they know that they’re going to fail. Some call it “falling off the wagon” but friends THIS IS LIFE! We are GOING to fail!
WE SHOULD BE CELEBRATING OUR FAILURES!
Yes, we should celebrate every time we screw up at something. This means we found one way not to do things the next time. How do you think any inventor was able to invent things? Think of the lightbulb. Do you think Edison just gave up whenever he tried something that didn’t work? No! He kept going and claimed that he found another way that didn’t work.
2. We have no plan for what to do when we fail.
Which brings me to my next point. If we can expect failure, then we can learn and grow all year long instead of being afraid to have a resolution that we know we won’t stick to. When coming up with a resolution, decision, goal or whatever you want to call it, it’s important to come up with as many possibilities of what could go wrong and what to do if things do hit the fan.
Life will throw things at you in full force when you’re trying to change things for the better. It’s almost like the universe’s way of making sure you’re serious about really wanting to improve.
So as you’re trying to figure out what it is you want to improve in life, you may be resolving to start during the new year, on a monday, or whatever. When you do, make sure that you know you’re going to fail and have a plan for when things don’t go so great.
3. We don’t experiment enough.
So many times when we make a goal or resolution, we think of it as black and white. All or nothing. We don’t think of it as “let me just see what happens when I do this.” And figure out what works for us and what doesn’t.
This is especially true with weightloss and dieting. If you’re starting a plan that restricts you, tells you what you can and can’t eat or do, and includes some things that don’t necessarily work for you and your individual body, then it can be easy to just give up when things don’t work.
Instead, If you’re trying to lose weight, change a few things for a few weeks, stick with it, and see if it works. If it doesn’t, that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you it just didn’t work for you , your body, your wallet, your lifestyle or whatever.
Resolutions don’t have to be black and white, there can be gray area where you just see what happens when you do X, Y, and Z.
4. We focus on what we can’t have.
Again this one refers to the most common resolution….weight loss. But you can still look at it from any angle.
When trying to change something up, it’s so important to focus on what you CAN have. Don’t think of losing weight as depriving yourself of all your favorite foods. If you focus on what you can’t have, that’s all you’re going to think about and your cravings will be so intense that you just won’t stick to it.
Instead, think of all the nutritious, delicious foods you CAN have and what they do for your body. Find ways to make them taste delicious and find ways to love different healthy foods. (Hello butter and salt on veggies!)
We’re more likely to stick to our plan if we focus on all the good parts about it. Not the negative. This goes with any of the resolutions we might have.